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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Two GOOD Days!

Monday and Tuesday were really good days. Mom's memory was not good, but it didn't matter because she was in a really good mood. She laughed at things and laughed at her own memory lapses. But there was no paranoia and her sense of humor was intact. It was good to laugh with her.

This morning was another story. (All good things don't last forever!) Mom fixated on her luggage- or rather her lack of luggage. She doesn't remember that she said it was ok to sell it, but she did remember it is gone and wants me to go get it. If I don't she says she will buy new. I asked her where she is going and where she is going to store the luggage. There is no more room! That was not the right comment to make...

Then she told me we have to sit down and talk because she is terribly unhappy because I treat her like a child and it is my fault she doesn't sleep well. There is nothing wrong with her and she doesn't understand why she and dad had to move in with us.

This evening we are back on a more even keel. I've been gone to meetings and I think that helped!

Now Dad wants to know if the four of us can make a trip this summer... Here comes the luggage issue!

2 comments:

Cher said...

I would sugest waiting to discuss a trip until after the luggage issue is forgotten.. it ill be.. there will be something else fo her to fixate on soon i'm sure... like when people start looking t the condo...

Thimbelle said...

I am so sorry... I know how a repetitive issue (like the luggage) can just drain you (the caregiver).

As Cher said, this too shall pass. It's really just a case of "when" and not "if".

Even though you don't have it, next time she asks about it, could you say "Mom, I know right where you luggage is - don't worry!"? Or perhaps something like "X (a trusted friend or family member) has borrowed your luggage, but they will bring it back when they are done". Remember that in her reality, the answer doesn't always have to make sense (why would X need the luggage, if I just saw them yesterday?) but it just has to calm that fear or help ease that worry about the luggage...

(((hugs))) Thim :)